Tuesday, March 18, 2008

Good thoughts from our friend Amy.

Thank you, Amy, for sharing another perspective, another way for us to care for others. So good to broaden our scope.

I went to pick up a diet coke yesterday from McDonalds (as I am completely addicted) and on the way home, I decided to drive by the cemetary where Lindsey is buried. It turns out that two other Mulvane teenagers were killed in a car accident on November 11, 2006, and they are buried across the way from Linz. We are also friends of the families that lost these boys and had heard that their headstones were to be delivered this week. As I drove out there, I saw the cars of one of the families and a few friends. I decided to drive on in and let them know that I was thinking of them and that God had for whatever reason, led me out there. They were putting together memorabilia to put under the headstones and just watching as they dug the dirt surrounding the boys graves. It was heartbreaking, but so peaceful for the family. Anyway, it brought me to this discovery.

As we go on about our busy lives, the lives of those who have been "left behind" after a death, also go on. However, they go on and have to face the daily void of losing that loved one. We are only faced with it when we remember or are put in situations like I was yesterday. I think of Sam and Kyle, Lindsey and Kyrie a lot. I forget to include their families in my prayers though as we just get so busy with every day life. As a reminder for these people whose lives are no longer "normal" I have written their names on a piece of paper and put it by my bed. That way , I can remember to pray for them every single day. I cannot imagine what it must be like to live without one of our children, but using that phrase is only good for awhile. Doing something for those people instead of constantly feelings sorry for them is what they need. The only thing that I can think to do on a daily basis is to pray for those that have been left behind. I guess I feel like that is a daily reminder to myself at how blessed I am, but also a daily reminder to God that those people need his constant arms around them. Anyway...I just want everyone to remember Kyrie, AND Jordan & Lacie. I want to remember Lindsey AND Stephanie & Kerry Moser, Kyle Adams AND his family, Sam Keys AND his family...we have to pray for the living and remember their battle is daily.


We pray for Ethan AND his family, too.

1 comment:

Melissa said...

Thanks for that reminder Amy...it is all too easy to get "caught up" in life and forget about those for whom living each day without their loved one is a struggle...a sometimes nearly impossible feat. I know that sometimes I find myself feeling like I need to "let this go" because it just hurts too much to remember what Lacie and Jordan have lost. Then I look around at my blessings and I know that walking this road with them is all I have to give and while it is painful, I have to be there. I have to love them, cry with them, miss her with them... As a result, God continues to bless me with new friends, a new outlook on life and a new appreciation for what I have right in front of me.

I pray for Ethan's family, they fought the good fight... I know that Ethan's loss will be deeply felt and far reaching...I only hope that his family will face his loss with the same grace and determination as Kyrie's has...

Give her a hug for us, E.

Big Love,